Why Netflix & Chill is ‘Ill’ for Relationships

I remember the first time someone attempted to turn me into a booty call. I was 19, home from college for the summer and looking to have a bit of fun. My friends and I would go to the lakefront, and towards the end of the summer, we randomly met these guys there one night. Initially, I wasn’t interested in “D,” because he was loud, cocky and seemed like an A-hole. But being young and impressionable, I gave him my phone number anyway.

Our phone conversations were average, but I figured I’d give him another chance to impress me in person. After a few chats on the phone, we decided to link up for our first date. The plan was for D to pick me up, take me to dinner and go bowling.

Twenty minutes before he was scheduled to arrive, D called me. He told me that he was “held up,” and would not be able to make it until around 10 p.m. Our date was for 7:00.

D showed up around 10:30 drunk, and looking like he’d been in the streets. He never told me what held him up. We ended up going to some fast food restaurant around my house and to the lake where we first met. He promised to make it up to me the following week before I went back to college.

Each and every time we were supposed to go out at a respectable hour for a date, D got “held up.” We never got the chance to actually get to know each other outside of the confines of the lakefront, a car, my parent’s living room or a fast food restaurant in the ’hood. It didn’t take long for me to realize that he was on bull, so after he tried to take me to I 57 Rib House for the third time, I told him I was cool on him. But some women wouldn’t have a problem with D’s idea of “courtship.” In fact, it seems like it’s becoming more and more acceptable these days.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’re familiar with the phrase, or shall I say, the “practice” of “Netflix & chill.” The terminology is new, but the act is pretty much the same as it’s always been. It involves someone who is interested in you sexually at the very least, who has the idea that coming over, watching Netflix and “chilling” is a great first, second orforever date.  If you “chill” enough, eventually, you will grow close and it increases the pursuer’s chances of getting laid… and it usually works.

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