“Love and peace of mind do protect us. They allow us to overcome the problems that life hands us. They teach us to survive… to live now… to have the courage to confront each day.” —Bernie Siegel
The world is pretty much closed for business due to the coronavirus aka “the rona.” Policymakers have mandated that we shelter in place, schools are shut down until further notice, and businesses have officially instructed employees to work from home until further notice.
While this is a prime opportunity for us to focus on ourselves, rest, spend quality time with those we love, and just chill the hell out, being stuck in the house with anyone can be mentally and emotionally taxing …even bae. But all isn’t lost y’all. Here are four things to remember for love during lockdown.
1. Allow yourself (and your mate) time to adjust.
The pandemic didn’t really give any of us much of a warning. It didn’t announce that our lives would be disturbed and our routines altered so abruptly. For a few weeks–or months–we pretty much have to create a new normal …and that includes being around our mates A LOT more than usual. Even if you have lived with your significant other for quite some time, being limited to certain activities will still weigh on you. There is a big difference between working from home every once in awhile, and doing so indefinitely (or having no income at all). Allow yourself and your mate time to adjust to the conditions that you’re now facing.
2. Don’t have an attitude.
This one is easier said than done. If you live with you significant other, chances are you’ve had your fair share of arguments. You also know what pushes each other’s buttons. Regardless of how familiar you are with each other, it’s best to minimize arguments. Maintaining peace in your space should be a priority. After all, there are only so many walks around the block or trips to the gas station you can take.
3. Understand that this is only temporary.
The whole world is pretty much on lockdown, and with the amount of mixed messages about the coronavirus being tossed into the atmosphere, it is pretty difficult to see a light at the end of the tunnel. But we have to remember that the light IS there. I can’t say for sure that things will be like they once were, but we will not be confined to our homes forever. Understand that our current situation does have an expiration date, so do not allow temporary feelings to permanently alter your relationship.
4. Remember to have fun and enjoy each other’s company.
While being limited to your home and the occasional grocery store run isn’t fun, it is rare that you’ll be able to spend this type of time with your significant other. Regardless of having to work or take care of the kids, don’t forget to set aside time for just the two of you. Prepare a meal together, watch a movie, or play your favorite game. Date night may be a challenge during the coronavirus lockdown, but it most certainly isn’t impossible.
Love during “the rona” is yet another obstacle to navigate, but with a little bit of compromise, patience, and understanding it is possible to come out of this. Not only can you relationship remain in tact, but it can even become stronger than ever.
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