I am firmly aware of some folks’ positions when it comes to gender roles in relationships — especially African-Americans I know. In a so-called traditional heterosexual union, the roles are clear and well-known.
Dear Shan Tellem, I’ve never been so confused in my life. My girlfriend broke up with me for getting tested for HIV. She is allergic to latex condoms and wanted us to have unprotected sex. So I did what I thought was the sensible thing and went and got tested for HIV—something I had not […]
Dear ShanTellem, I’ve been happily married to my husband for four years. He is VERY traditional, but he knew that I was bisexual before we got married. I have been craving the feel, touch and companionship of a woman lately. He can sense it, so he told me to find me a girlfriend. Problem is, […]
Dear Shan Tell’em, I have been dating a guy for 10 years off and on. He has been abusive physically and emotionally, and I’ve tried to date other men but he ruins the relationship. What makes matters worse is that he is married with children and he has children with me.
Dear ShanTell’em, I’m a 35-year-old single man living in California. I have been involved with a woman I met through a mutual friend for about three months now. She does not want to commit, but expects me to do everything that a boyfriend should.