ew things are worse than being dumped during the holiday season. But if you happen to be on the receiving end of “It’s just not working,” you’re in luck. It’s a blessing not to go into the New Year with old baggage, and although you may not immediately be able see the light at the […]
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True Love is Not the Struggle That You Might Imagine
We have been conditioned to believe that if it’s too easy, it isn’t for us. Especially when it comes to love.

Held Hostage by Love Part 3: ‘But We Go Half on the Bills’
Many people stay in unhealthy romantic situations due to some form of “love.” But more often than not, they’re captives of emotions other than love (fear, comfort or complacency, for example) than the one thing they claim to be their reason for remaining committed to a less-than-deserving partner. This four-part series will explore the many […]

Love Don’t Live Here Anymore
“Sometimes we have to let go of what is killing us, even if it’s killing us to let go.” – Unknown It’s hard to accept that the one who you planned to love forever is no longer the one that you will love forever. No one wants to feel like a failure, and when it comes to matters of the heart, it […]
Crying for Help
Dear Shan Tell’em, I have been dating a guy for 10 years off and on. He has been abusive physically and emotionally, and I’ve tried to date other men but he ruins the relationship. What makes matters worse is that he is married with children and he has children with me.