Dear Shan Tellem, I’ve never been so confused in my life. My girlfriend broke up with me for getting tested for HIV. She is allergic to latex condoms and wanted us to have unprotected sex. So I did what I thought was the sensible thing and went and got tested for HIV—something I had not […]
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Is She Using Me?
Dear ShanTell’em, I’m a 35-year-old single man living in California. I have been involved with a woman I met through a mutual friend for about three months now. She does not want to commit, but expects me to do everything that a boyfriend should.
The Value of Setting Standards
People let you down all the time. They make choices that you may not agree with, break promises they said they never would, and simply do not follow through. When it comes to relationships, this tends to affect us on a much deeper level. Perhaps it’s because we’re in love, feel like we’ve given ourselves […]
Why Netflix & Chill is ‘Ill’ for Relationships
I remember the first time someone attempted to turn me into a booty call. I was 19, home from college for the summer and looking to have a bit of fun. My friends and I would go to the lakefront, and towards the end of the summer, we randomly met these guys there one night. […]
The Sex Bucket List: A Guide
Whenever we reach a milestone in life, we tend to reflect on where we’ve been, where we are currently and where we want to go. My friend came to visit me a few months before his 30th birthday. We talked about all that he’d achieved so far, and what he hoped to accomplish once he […]
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