Everyone wants to be happy. We all seek to surround ourselves with people, activities, jobs, etc. that will get us to our desired level of joy. Unfortunately, many of us forget to take a look in the absolute first place that we should search.
Everything that we need to be happy is inside of us. Sounds cliche, but it’s true. You ever get in a relationship with someone who is always in search of the next best thing? We all know these types. The kind who are afraid to settle down and because they have a lot of unresolved issues that is affecting their present, but instead of admitting that, they find something wrong with each and every person they’re with. They find reasons to leave a situation, because they “just aren’t happy.” But realistically, nothing is wrong, they are just making a decision that they feel will get them a “better feeling.”
The practice goes beyond that of romance. People think if they had a better job they would be happy, or moved to a different city, they wouldn’t have the issues that they have. Next thing you know, they’ve been in four different relationships and have lived in seven different cities in the past two years. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with upgrading, but that’s not what I’m talking right now.
Many of us tend to deal with people who just are not on the same page that we are on. They seek their joy from outside vessels, and when they find out that the vessel isn’t the source, they move on to the next person or thing. The sad reality is that if they keep up this type of behavior, they will never feel complete because they are overlooking the very thing that has been inside of them all along. And that’s the ability to create and maintain peace and joy.
People won’t even begin to see what you can bring to the table, if they’re not happy with themselves. They won’t be able to make you happy because they’re not happy. The problem with happiness is that it takes a level of commitment that many aren’t willing to give these days. You have to commit to a mental attitude and realistic effort that will inspire you to be happy, and you have to accept that your definition may not be the same as the rest of society.
What I’m referring to shouldn’t be confused with settling. I truly believe that if passion is not present in what you’re involved in, then you should not be part of it if you can help it. I’m talking about balance, risk-taking and mutual reciprocation.
So ask yourself, “What REALLY makes me happy? What is it inside of me that I just dig?”