We’re at the age where a lot of us are searching. Searching for love, searching for a better career, searching for peace. Ten years ago, it wasn’t as serious. Yeah we might have graduated from college with a lot of debt, but many of us had the cushion of going back to our parents’ crib to figure things out. This time? Not so much.
No matter how many times you hear someone say “I don’t give a f***,” they actually do. After around 26, things get real and unless you’re a Kardashian, you got worries. They even have worries, but you know what I mean. On top of being successful, we all have a strong desire to matter. To know why we exist and what we’re meant to do in the world. If you’re like me, the “for the world” matters just as much too.
I want to take a second to talk about purpose. I was having a conversation with an associate of mine, and he kept talking about how he needs to figure things out. He’s 33 and has made a bunch of career decisions, without making any at all actually. We’ve all been there to some degree. Found a gig, then thought about going back to school, only to determine that what we’re going to school for isn’t really what we want to do; and it’s all in the name of finding “happiness.” Hell I know I have. You can listen to how I discovered my purpose by clicking here.
See, what I think a lot of people mean when they say happiness is purpose. It can be an extremely stressful venture, you know finding your purpose and all. But I’m here to tell you that you won’t have to look as hard as you think.
First thing, accept the fact that you will never have it all figured out. Society tells us that we have to make a life decision at the tender age of 18. We can’t legally drink, but we have to figure out what we want to do in terms of profession. Do we go to college? If so what shall we major in? Or trade school? Or find a job? Or the army? All of these life decisions severely impact us, and put a ridiculous amount of pressure on us right after we just finished enjoying prom.
But here’s the thing, society’s “plan” is severely flawed. It creates nothing but a bunch of robots, who have paid way too much for a degree to major in a field they know very little about. And we’re somehow supposed to enjoy our jobs for the next 45 years? No wonder a lot of us aren’t happy! We’re not being guided towards our purpose. Just another mode of survival, in hopes of collecting social security when our time is up.
Accept the fact that you’re going to make a lot of mistakes, and embrace them. If you’re a type A personality, the worse thing in the world that can happen to you is making a mistake. Well they don’t call life a journey for no reason, and journeys are filled with bumps in the road, but each obstacle gets you closer to your purpose. So get used to navigating a few potholes in a broke down hoopty for a little while.
Go with the flow, but plan. That last sentence sounds contradictory, and in many ways it is. But it speaks more to faith, than actually planning every step of your life. In order for your purpose to find you, you must believe that it will. You have to have it in your mind and heart that what you are destined to do, will find, keep and make you happy. And you have to be willing to experiment and take risks.
Realize that your purpose will most likely cause you to have a degree of humility like never before. When you finally are presented with your purpose, you’ll be tested. Correction: Your EGO will be tested. We all have an idea of how we would like our life to be, but often your purpose takes you in a different direction. And it is a humbling experience. It’s important that you do not fight it, regardless of how strong of a desire you may have to give up. Afterall, it’s what you’re meant to do and it will make you happy eventually.
No one said it would be easy, but dammit if it doesn’t beat playing it safe and following the perfect blueprint that the world has laid out for you. As cliche as it sounds, things really do have a way of working out. You just have to pay attention, stop comparing your life to others and remember to Embrace it ALL.