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Dear Shan Tell’em,

I’m a 30-year-old creative who has never vibed with the 9 to 5 routine. While I can do it, I’m just not built for it. I’ve been pursuing my dream of becoming a filmmaker and owning my own company for a few years now, and as you probably know, things have been rough. I’m still not well-known, and the rest of my peers are gainfully employed and seem to be doing well. Recently, I was afforded the opportunity to move to New York City and work for a show produced by ABC. Great right? The catch is that it’s not in production or anything related to the process of creating the show, but in the accounting department. My friends and family think that I should take the job, but I have some really great connections here in Chicago and I feel like my big break is right around the corner. I just don’t want to disappoint my future self by making the wrong decision. What should I do?


To Go Or Not To Go

Dear To Go Or Not To Go,

Believe it or not, a lot of people are in your situation. We all want to be successful, and unfortunately, good benefits, a 9 to 5 and two weeks vacation has amounted to that. But for some of us, that just doesn’t cut it. We are hungry for opportunities that don’t just look good on paper, but those that will also enrich our lives.

I’m not knocking the 9 to 5 at all. Some people love what they do and for them, it suits them well. But then there’s some of us who go crazy in that type of environment. We crave to be our own boss and express our creativity on our own terms. You’re one of those people.

The truth is that you’ll never be satisfied unless you fully commit to your dream. You have to accept the fact that you will not make everyone happy. People will talk s*** and it may come from a place of love and concern. But only you know what’s best for you. We only get one shot at life so live it on your terms.

In reference to the job, congratulations on the offer. But ask yourself whether or not you REALLY want to move hundreds of miles away for an accounting job. Why? Because they hire accountants to do the job they were hired for. The chances of working your way up on the creative end are slim to none, so unless you’re interested in being promoted in your hired field, it’s not going to happen. If it were for an accounting firm instead of a hit television show, would you still consider moving? If the answer’s no, then don’t do it. Notice how I say “us.” This is coming from a person who has made the decision to no longer half way commit to her dream. I believe in you, but that means nothing if you do not believe in yourself.

Good luck and I wish you the best.

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