Dear Shan Tell’em,

I have a bit of a dilemma. A friend of mine is sleeping with a mutual friend of ours, who happens to have an incurable sexually transmitted disease. I did not find out about the STD from my friend, but through someone else who she recently had relations with who went to the doctor because things were not right down there. 

Anyway, I’m looking at my friend sideways because I didn’t think she would withhold this type of information. And I’m pretty sure she hasn’t told my friend, but I feel he needs to know! So what should I do?


To Tell or Not to Tell

Dear To Tell or Not to Tell,

WOW! This is super sensitive information that can have devastating affects on all of the parties involved if not handled delicately. If I were to take a gander, I’d say that everyone involved is grown. With that being said, a level of individual responsibility comes into focus when engaging in sexual activity. Now I’m not going to act like I don’t know how things work when it comes to sex. You don’t always have time to get those test results, but you should always use protection. I know that isn’t a way of life either for some, but we aren’t dealing with folks who are children. What your friend did was very irresponsible, and unacceptable. She is compromising the health and lives (depending on what type of infection she has) of everyone who she has engaged in sexual activity with. But, I can see why she withheld the information. Having a STD can often make one feel ashamed, dirty and less than worthy. But that still does not warrant not telling.

Read the rest at JET.

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