If I have to pay for someone else’s mistakes, then I’m not buying. People rationalize all kinds of ridiculous behavior motivated by fear on a regular basis. The main excuse for not being willing to love someone freely and openly is, “I’ve been hurt before.”
Dear Shan Tell’em, I have been dating a guy for 10 years off and on. He has been abusive physically and emotionally, and I’ve tried to date other men but he ruins the relationship. What makes matters worse is that he is married with children and he has children with me.
For whatever reason, many people think that being in a relationship is signing away your independence, especially if you get married. While marriage definitely makes it more difficult to just “pick up and go,” by no means does the commitment imply that your life is over as you know it.
We don’t have to watch a cheesy talk show to witness a couple that sticks together in the name of love that should have parted ways a long time ago. Hell, many of us either are or have been that couple at some point. Love is a key component to a healthy relationship, but without respect, […]
Unless we’re locked away in a torture chamber, I think it’s safe to say that emotional pain and disappointment is the worse type of pain that we will ever endure in this lifetime. The feeling, especially when you allow yourself to be vulnerable, can be downright paralyzing. It’s as if you are never the same again […]