It’s very appealing to fit in. To be what someone wants you to be just so you can get what you want. But we have to remember that being YOU always trumps any other person that you’re pretending to be.
Whenever you feel the need to put on airs, remind yourself of how good you are as is. Behaving in a way that is unlike you will only breed resentment in the long run. If you think about it, pretending to be someone that you’re not goes beyond being fake, it’s downright deceitful. Not to mention a whole lot of work.
I’ve come across quite a few people who lose themselves once they get in relationships. Their behavior goes well beyond that of compromise, it’s a straight up adaptation of their significant other’s life and being. They stop seeing their own families, dress in a manner that doesn’t reflect their personality, and pretty much attempt to be the perfect mold of a mate that they think their partner wants. Pretending to be someone that you’re not actually does more harm than good. You rob yourself and your mate of an authentic, long-lasting connection because they are robbed of knowing the real you to even fall for.
Those who feel the need to hide their true selves may be relaying signs of a deeper issue with their self esteem. In order to proudly be in a relationship, you must be comfortable with yourself, and know that someone will love you just the way that you are meant to exist on this Earth. Compromise is necessary in order for a relationship to thrive, but it’s definitely a two-way street. Make sure that you’re doing just that.
Anything that puts pressure on you to not just bend, but break who you are as a person just to get love from your mate is plain wrong. I challenge you to continue to walk in your authenticity, and be comfortable enough to expect the right people to notice and appreciate what you have to offer.
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