Category Archives: love and relationships

Negative Nancy & Hatin’ Harold: Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That!

Photo: Blake Emrys

Is it me, or does it seem like the more successful you become, the more positive you try to be, the more compassion you exude the more you’re faced with negativity? It’s like the universe says “hey you’re getting close to actually being somebody. Let’s throw a hatin’ ass person your way!” A few days ago, I was having a conversation with friends about the subject. We’re all in our late 20s, mid-level in our careers and are very ambitious.While talking about certain obstacles we’ve encountered while pursuing our dreams, we noticed a commonality: Negative Nancys and Hatin’ Harolds. Continue reading Negative Nancy & Hatin’ Harold: Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That!

This Just In: Relationships Are A Full Time Job

It was almost 3 years ago, and I faced the toughest decision of my life at the time. I was involved with a guy     whom I loved very much, but honestly the relationship became too much work for the both of us. I remember the day when I knew that it was over. I had just moved into my very first apartment in the city, and he lived in the burbs. We only saw each other on the weekends, so I looked forward to Friday through Sunday. It was one particular Friday in November and we were on the phone. I asked him if he was going to come over and he actually ran down a list of reasons why he wasn’t going to come. Continue reading This Just In: Relationships Are A Full Time Job

This Just In: Your Sh*t Stinks Too

“You Don’t Know WHERE the Haters are! – My High School Classmate’s Grandma

I’d like to start off by stating that this post is strictly to inform and to share clues of determining who is offering constructive criticism and who is just plain negative. Lately I’ve either observed, was told about or have been involved in a series of instances where people are judging and blaming others for their shortcomings.  You know that “friend” who always wants to talk ish about you and what you need to do but their life is in shambles? Or that coworker, significant other or parent that insist on personally letting you know how much you need to improve. This clearly isn’t anything new and I’m sure these types of people who “mean well” have been around since the discovery of black pepper. It’s important to note that I’m not referring to those who genuinely have your best interest at heart. I’m talking about those who are described on the street as “haters.” Continue reading This Just In: Your Sh*t Stinks Too

You Were Honest: So What I’m Still Leaving

“Honesty is the cruelest game of all, because not only can you hurt someone, and hurt them to the bone, but you can feel self-righteous about it at the same time” – Dave Van Ronk

So, I’ve been single for a while now, which is an adjustment in itself. Needless to say the dating realm has changed a bit since I left it five years ago to take a stab at true love and pure monogamy. Grown ass men who live at home with their moms find nothing wrong with a woman chauffeuring them around and apparently coming over to “chill” has replaced the acceptable dinner and a movie activity for a first date. It’s been quite….interesting to say the least. Continue reading You Were Honest: So What I’m Still Leaving

The Lies We Keep & The Secrets We Tell

  It’s pretty much impossible to tell the truth the entire time. Lies always have a way of penetrating one’s psyche. First, invading that of the one who tells the lie to the point in which they believe that lying is the best decision. Sometimes the lie slowly morphs into their own truth, one that makes sense only in their heads and perhaps those of other liars. Then to the victim’s psyche. The one who doesn’t deserve to be manipulated; whose trust is abused by said liar. It seems like people are less affected by actions, than the lie that resulted in the action. What do you hear when you watch “Cheaters?” A man will roll up with Joey Greco and those cameras, victim in tow and what’s the first thing that comes out of their mouths?Not you cheated on me. Not you hurt me but “You lied to me.” Continue reading The Lies We Keep & The Secrets We Tell