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Sign Language: 5 Characteristics That Make the Sagittarius Wonderful

Sagittarius season (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) is upon us and while folks are busy repping how much better their sign is than the other 11 (yawn), I, the Sexy Sagittarius (sly grin), have decided to be more diplomatic. No sign is better than the rest. The elements and distribution of strengths in certain areas won’t allow that.

In honor of OUR season, here are five reasons why we are wonderful, particularly why you may want to consider dating one (smile).

1) We are well-rounded.

We may be jovial and down for an adventure. We may even need constant stimulation for you to keep our attention. But you know what we don’t need? Assistance in finding topics of conversation. Our spontaneous nature and thirst for knowledge leads us down the road to a plethora of experiences, so chances are we are up on all of the current events, have travelled to Tahiti before turning 25 and moved to L.A. for a month just because. In sum, you’ll never be able to say that we are boring, which brings me to my next point.

2) We are adventurous.

If you are more attracted to someone who’d rather binge-watch Project Runway every weekend, then you may want to get you a Taurus (no shade LOL). While the Sagittarius man or woman definitely needs moments to recharge away from people, most of the time we are out on the town. No, this doesn’t mean that you’ll be expected to go skydiving or to the strip club every Friday. It just means that your archer will most likely not want to be home 24/7. Even the introverted brothers and sisters of this sign enjoy a night out. Whether it’s checking out a new museum exhibit or going out for Ethiopian food solo, this fire sign enjoys soaking up different experiences.

3) We are pretty damn transparent.

Okay, we are blunt as hell. Some of the things that fly out of my mouth are even too much for myself at times, but there’s a bit of charm in us being slightly tactless LOL. You always know what we are thinking, which allows us to build genuine, personable bonds with folks. That’s gotta count for something, right? Shrugs.

4) We don’t tolerate bullsh*t.

Okay, say what you want about us, but the Sag man or woman will not keep a lot of bad company around. We have a low tolerance for bs and value the hell out of honesty and truth. So if you’re one to play games or be slick, you won’t stand a chance with us. Be you always; just be you over there if your not right.

5) We are versatile in the bedroom.

Like I stated earlier, the Sagittarius do not like boring. Routine serves as a decent roadmap, but it certainly cannot be the main compass, especially in the bedroom. If you happen to be into strict routines when getting down …miss us with the agenda. We view sex as an exploration where just about anything goes. You can like what you like, but you better be willing to try some other ish every once in awhile.

The Truth About Those ‘Walls’ You Built to Protect Your Heart

If I have to pay for someone else’s mistakes, then I’m not buying.

People rationalize all kinds of ridiculous behavior motivated by fear on a regular basis. The main excuse for not being willing to love someone freely and openly is, “I’ve been hurt before.” Continue reading The Truth About Those ‘Walls’ You Built to Protect Your Heart

People Prefer Projects Over Real Love

It has never been clearer to me: people crave love, but do not know how to receive it. They simply aren’t willing to do the necessary work to change their circumstance either.

Instead, people opt for “projects” as opposed to a genuine, loving, passionate partner who they have an authentic soul-stirring bond with. True, this union will have its share of issues, but one thing’s for sure: you won’t question whether you’re with the one who you’re meant to weather the storm with. Just sayin.’

Let’s be real. Meeting someone who is just about everything that you imagined is scary. I mean, you can’t control raw, unfiltered emotion. Plus, if you get what you pray for, then what?

For many, the answered prayer doesn’t mean that the Creator really does well …answer prayers. It also doesn’t mean that you’re deserving of your prayers being answered. God forbid that be the case (eye roll). It simply means that you’d have to find another thing to hope, stress, sulk and pray for.

So remaining content in your dysfunction masked as “love” is the only option. Forget the fact that your union is really dependence …not to mention a damn struggle. You’re committed to the relationship. You have someone who needs you.

Instead of actually allowing yourself to be blessed with someone who we are worthy of and who gives us butterflies (yes, fairytales do f***ing exist), many of us opt for projects. We would rather expel our energy on “fixing someone,” “not letting all of our hard work go to waste” or “overcoming” some dumb ass obstacle (or twelve) than truly being happy. We’ve been conditioned to “struggle” so we “know it’s real” and to be “needed” instead of loved, adored and cherished without dependence. We cannot expect to fully be happy because the other shoe is bound to drop, right?

Those who choose projects over love aren’t simply fulfilling a need for someone else, they’re creating dependency on the relationship and circumstance due to their own shortcomings/insecurities. The need to be needed is the glue that keeps you together, which is weak and more importantly, fake love.

With that kind of glue, how can a person ever know that they’re with someone who truly loves them for them, versus someone who loves what is done for them?

I wonder if getting out of your own way seems too “real.” Hmmm.

I don’t know about you, but I’m saying no to fake love in 2018 …and beyond.

How to Tell If You’re With ‘The One’

Whenever someone has found someone who they deem worthy of commitment they use terms like, “The One” to describe him or her. Let me be the first to say that while someone can be very special, I don’t subscribe to terms like this because I feel that any person can be “The One” at any given time in one’s life. Continue reading How to Tell If You’re With ‘The One’