You know what we are really great at? Making excuses for the piss poor treatment we receive by the ones we love. All of the signs that they do not value or respect us are there, yet we “hope” that things get better because we “love” them.
But if we are being truly honest with ourselves, hope and love are just masks for what we do not wish to know about who and where we are in life. The truth is that we do not feel worthy of someone greater and we are honestly afraid to even be with the one who will not treat us like s*** or take us for granted.
In fact, I’d argue that part of us has become comfortable with being victimized and have completely absolved ourselves–or our mates for that matter–of responsibility in our choices.
No one wants to believe this about themselves …especially in a world that teaches us to be proud, successful and to always present ourselves as being the ish. But the honest God truth is that we all have insecurities and if we are not “waiting for the other shoe to drop,” we are dropping it ourselves. And in doing so, it helps with the process of “settling” for horribly abusive and incompatible mates.
After all, “It ain’t gonna get no better than this.” Plus, “When it is good it’s good,” right? But when was the last time it was “good?” Shouldn’t your lover be your peace and the
good, correction great times outweigh the bad? Nothing or no one is perfect but by now, we should all know the difference between a rough patch and f*** s***. 🤷🏾♀️
The reality is that we must honestly believe that we wholeheartedly deserve what we want …and give to our lover. We must define and stick to what we need and desire in a mate. Otherwise, while you will undoubtedly encounter worthy people, you will continue to pass them up due to “love,” “hope,” meeting them at the “wrong time” or my favorite excuse, “history.”